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Meeting your partner online VS in person
Oct 01, 2017

There is many people who will tell you to never meet someone online and try to have a long distance relationship internationally. They say to just go and show up and meet someone. That is possible for those of us who are from western countries. We in the USA are blessed to have a passport that will get us to most countries without needing to do mch more then pay for a flight and show up. However for citizens of many countries this is not really a posibility. Most if not all the asian countries have sever restrictions on travel to  most western countries. Visas are needed and they can often be difficult or impossible to get for them. I speak from the point of view of an american citizen engaged to a philippines citizen since this is where most of My experience lies. 

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  While I agree that meeting someone in person is best. It's much easier to judge them as a person and judge their intentions. However many of us don't have much vacation time and the trip is expensive. Furthermore it can be very difficult to work yourself up to getting on a plane alone and flying around the world to a strange country you know little about. 

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  Sometimes things just happen, you are interested in a place so you start looking around facebook, join a few groups and next thing you know you have many friends overseas and many offers. This happened to me, I never set out to find a girlfriend online... I just wanted to study and get some knowledge before I decided if I wanted to persue it. I have a friend who has lived in the Philippines many years who was always trying to get me to come. Once I seperated from my wife at the time it seemed like a perfect time. I made many female friends online. Most of them were opertunistic honestly, always hnting around about needin gthis or needing that... they rarely come right out and ask altho I got some of that as well. But then there was a few who were just always real nice and sweet, never asked for anything, always were concerned with how I was doing or feeling.. In short just really good girls. 

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  I had been talking to a younger province girl for a little while and although she was pretty, petite and sweet ( all things I like of course) it just wasn't going anywhere. Her english was not good and she wasn't educated so we really had limited things to talk about. However I guess she thought more of it then I did. One day I recieved a message from a woman and we started talking. She was the neighbor of the young girl, she was my age and she had been asked to talk to me for the other girl. Well I didn't really understand that, I thought she gave her my information thinking we would be a better fit... which as t turns out we really were. Almost imediatly I knew this girl was special and altho I fought it for a while eventually I knew I had feeling for this woman. 

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  Cut to almost 3 years later and we are still together and plan on being married. It's not been an easy journey but I truely believe it's worth it. I feel I have met the best woman for me in this world. As soon as our kids are on their own we will be together, I plan to move to the philippines and live out the rest of my life. It's the one place in this world I've always been happy. It's strange how a people with so little are so happy and we have so much here and are mostly miserable. Maybe thats a subject for another story.

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  In short altho it may not be the best idea meeting asian women online or meeting single women online in general, life happens... You need to be more diligent online, protect yourself. Don't give money that's not on a level thats equal with the status of your relationship. I would never say "NEVER SEND THEM MONEY" like so many other do. I mean if you love this woman of course you want to help. But if you have known her 2 months and she needs $20 for food I don't see the problem. If you have known her 2 months and she wants you to fund her sari sari store or buy a house then you may want to reconsider things. There is always need for them, it's a developing nation afterall. That makes it dificult to judge who is scamming and who just really needs a hand sometimes. Also this is a culture that is much more open about barrowing money then we are here. 

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 this is probably not a good subject to be writing for an online international social networking site but I always want people to be well informed and to be safe. I'm looking to make people happy here like I have been happy and part of that is done by educating everyone in some lessons myself and others have learned the hard way. I 100% believe it's possible to meet your dream girl online.... because I have done it.

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Be safe friends, but enjoy life. Good luck to you all in your search.

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